"Baba explained that, in the process of the return of love to love itself, a man will inevitably fall in love with a woman, and vice versa. It is natural, and there is nothing wrong in that. There comes a time in this process of love seeking love, in the process of God's divine game of loving and being loved, that a man sees a woman, or a woman sees a man, and something flares up deep within them. According to Baba, this experience occurs only once in a great while, and it is indescribable. All of the heart goes out to that person, and the experience is an agonisingly happy one.
"The result is that the person who has such an experience wants to do anything and everything for that person to whom his heart has gone out. You want to go all out for that person, thinking and caring endlessly for nothing but that person. You go truly mad with love, in short. This is a beautiful moment, the rarest moment for which this human form has been created. We have inherited this form for this particular moment.
"When such a moment dawns, Baba says, we should try our utmost not to lose it. We must try to nurture it, and do everything possible to preserve it. For when we allow the feeling of that sublime moment to grow, it bursts into a flame, and then a fire. That fire is the beginning of real love, a burning experience of being consumed.
"If at this point, Baba says, instead of allowing that feeling to be consummated, you get yourself consumed in it, then you are no more. You become lost in it and are yourself consumed. Unfortunately, however, what tends to happen - through our human frailties - is that we waste the opportunity. And again we get another such opportunity, and then again we waste it. And on and on it goes. How do we waste the opportunity? We waste it by consummating the feeling through sex play culminating in intercourse. We waste this divine opportunity by consummating that love, rather than being consumed in it.
"In giving us this explanation, Baba then demonstrated what happens as a result of consummating this divine impulse to love. You are now enmeshed in a dilemma. You put your hands over your head and you sit there, not knowing what to do. The world now impresses itself upon you in full force as you become surrounded by children and all the concerns of family life. And this experience, in contrast to that divine urge to love which preceded the consummation, creates within you an enormous conflict and struggle.
"If, on the other hand, instead of allowing yourself to consummate that feeling of love, you allow yourself to be consumed by it, the result is most beautiful and sublime. Then there is no such thing as individuality left. Every thing and every being seem to be one. In this experience consists the meaning of rising above sex. In such a state you begin to love so intensely, Baba said, that you eventually begin to love him - the divine beloved from whom you have received that feeling of love.
"The time comes, he says, in your process of loving me, when I myself become your lover. I, the beloved, become your lover. And you, who began as my lover, become transformed into my beloved. In this transformation lies the union that is the end of it all. That union is called Realisation, and when that occurs, nothing else remains. In that ultimate experience, Baba says, I and you become one.
"Sex, then, has to play its role in order to give us that experience which can ultimately help us to lose ourselves, and find our real self. Time and again we play with sex, but sex is there so that we can rise above it, and find our way to the ultimate goal: to be consumed in divine love. Only by beloved Baba's grace - or that of the Perfect Master - is it possible to reach the goal of being completely consumed in love divine.
"Along the way, it inevitably happens that we engage in various interplays, which we call little love affairs, in our unconscious attempts to find true love in the divine love affair. With respect to such interludes, Baba was always very clear and firm: if anyone wants to consummate that feeling of love for another person, then one must do everything within one's power to remain with that partner for a lifetime, to remain constant and true to that partner. We must not flitter around from one flower to another, like birds and bees. As human beings we are expected to be steadfast.
Eruch Jessawala, Meherazad, from a tape-recording
'The Way and The Goal' 2:8 (May 1984) p1-4''
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